Are They Still Mad At Me?This question has been coming up a lot lately, “are they still mad at me?”

For example, someone recently asked me, “Is mom still mad at me?”

The question usually comes with the story goes something like this: “mom and I had a fight the night before she died. I never got to say I'm sorry.”

A medium's perspective

Here's the good news: in my 30 years as a psychic medium I have yet to have somebody come through from the other side angry at somebody on the side. It just doesn't happen.

We become enlightened when we get on the other side. We see things completely differently we see things from a perspective of love.

Silly little arguments, disagreements, and other nonsense falls to the wayside.

More often than not, they will joke about incidents like this when I bring their spirit thorough at live events or during readings.

Why do they joke about it? Because death gets in the way of things! Isn't that right? And since they have no control over their passing, it's almost always an inconvenient time to leave.

Our deceased loved ones do not want us getting all hung up on stuff like that.

When we get over to the other side – heaven – we lose all forms of ego. We lose the “I was right/you were wrong” thinking. It no longer exists.

So if you're feeling guilty, I urge you to let go of that. If you choose to be worried about that, just be clear that it's only you worrying about it. Not them! So why carry that guilt?

Just to be clear

Just to be clear, let me state the obvious: I'm talking about petty agreements, arguments, etc.

If you were talking about robbing a bank or murdering someone and mom was upset at you because of that, I can assure you she will still be upset on the other side!

Remember this: love never dies. Your loved ones are definitely alive in the afterlife and wish only the best for you. Embrace that, and run with it.

Love and light to you.

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  1. Lisa at - Reply

    Thank you for sharing your gift!!

  2. Jean Gorton at - Reply

    Thank you Blair, I am not getting your information on Facebook any more or I am just not online the same time you are. You read for me in Halifax when you were here. I was the one who had a shirt on that looked like a doily! 🙂 I appreciate all of your feed back and healing sessions when I know about them. Love and light blessings

  3. Sue at - Reply

    My problem is the other way around. I’m angry with my mother. Probably always will be too. I’m glad others issues can be rectified.

    Love and Light,

  4. Doreen at - Reply

    I have enjoyed your sessions while listening in..
    Light and Aloha!

  5. Virginia O'Donnell at - Reply

    Thank you Blair. You are a true giving and caring person. Blessings to you and yours. I so appreciate all the help you give.
    Virginia O’Donnell

  6. Donna Sanzo at - Reply

    Would love to be on your VIP list but won’t go when I click.

    • Patricia Murray at - Reply

      I have this problem as well. I click on it and nothing happens

  7. Ava at - Reply

    my spouse, I don’t think was angry…we had not quarreled, or had unkind words with each other…
    I am the one who feels guilty…that, IF, I had taken him to the hospital a few hours earlier, he might have survived the sudden cardiac arrest… He did not complain of chest pain when I got back from purchasing the tickets for the new years eve celebration…he only mentioned he felt constipated…no chest pain until a couple of hours later…at which time I did call EMS…I have gone over this in my head for the last year and 2.5 months…at times I feel okay, at other times I have guilty thoughts.
    I so wanted him to come through you on 3/17 in Las Vegas, but, it was not my time to hear from him, I guess…
    Thank you so much for being you. You are so lucky, to have this gift.

    God bless you.

  8. Alison Pedwell at - Reply

    Thank you for your response to ‘are they mad at me’ your timing is incredible. I really enjoy the online sessions you post. I try to listen when I can. Hoping to get tickets for Kitchener/Waterloo, just waiting to hear if my husband can get time off work so we can go. I so appreciate your words of encouragement. Have a great day.

  9. Kay at - Reply

    Enjoy your white healing light. I am new to your site. Thanks

  10. Mike at - Reply

    Thanks for the blog post Blair! This struck home. I am 61, and my mother committed suicide when I was 15. We had a horrific argument and I said horrible things (as only a 15 year old can !). I no longer blame myself and now understand how unhappy her life experience on earth was for her-she was looking for relief from pain… I look forward to being in your group in Austin on the 7th!

  11. Mike at - Reply

    to previous post, our argument was the evening before she took her life.

  12. Carol Pilgrim at - Reply

    I’ve seen you in person twice in Newfoundland. You never disappoint even though I’ve never received a reading. I have faith so to see the sceptics change their minds was worth seeing.

  13. Debra Fedro at - Reply

    I am very excited to see you in person on April 7th in Austin, TX. Can you please tell me about the size of your venues.
    I saw a famous television psychic a few years ago and left there crying. There were thousands of people there and she gave 4 readings. The reason I bought a ticket as soon as I saw the ad, even though I had never heard of him was it advertised as a small venue. The closer it gets the more excited I am especially after researching him. But if I misunderstood about the size please let me know. Thank you for any help!!

  14. Cathy at - Reply

    Blair I so enjoy your books and videos and can’t wait to see you LIVE in New Orleans on April 1, I booked my tickets for myself and daughters over a month ago. This will be our first time seeing you and Wendy and can’t wait for Saturday to get here.
    Peace to you and yours

  15. Pam at - Reply

    In regards to the question of if your loved one is mad at you I have to tell you that it might be rare, but in my reading it was true for me. The lack of Love for me from my Mom came through clearly from a famous psychic. Maybe she isn’t in Heaven!

  16. mary at - Reply

    Hi Blare ,
    thank you ! I, a impath ,not sure what i,m supose to do really but i,m seen spirits and also talk with them when i was a kid ,just see them when awake but they come to me in my sleep. Kinda afraid sometimes case they leave there marks on me meaning bruises ect. Glad to connnect with someone who know what it,s like .

  17. Blair,
    Thank you so very much for acknowledging my mother, Adele. She was and still is such a beautiful and bright soul. I sense her presence around me quite often.

    Was extremely surprised that you actually took the time to mention her and I again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    May GOD BLESS you, ALWAYS.
    You will now also be in my prayers.

  18. Heather at - Reply

    Thank you!! I have been on a list with the Long Island Medium for a reading to find peace in my life for almost 5 years now. Well 5 years as of April. I didn’t rib a bank or murder someone but did CPR on my fiance and always hope he’s not mad at me that I couldn’t save him. I did bring him back but only for him to code again on the way to the ER. He was in a coma for 11 days and then we had to pull the plug. It was inevitable because of the lack of oxygen deprived his brain and caused too much damage where as he was on life support just to keep him alive, in the end the only thing functioning was his stem cell to brain. I had to sign the papers and feel maybe he was mad at me, but in a way I know he wouldn’t want to go on in a vegetative state!! I’ve been suffering with this on and off thought for years and nightmares finding him blue!! Thank you for this above because I just want him to know I love him more than anything and hope he still feels the same about me!! Thank you!! Tears are in my eyes now as I type this!!

  19. Marion Grasso at - Reply

    Not true,my brother killed himself when I was sixteen and shortly before we had a stupid argument about pudding. A few months later I woke to find him standing over me telling me he hated me over that pudding so yes they continue to be mad.

  20. Sharon at - Reply

    TY I needed to hear this. Light and Love

  21. Maggie Scorse at - Reply

    I am finally getting some of your posts on FB again. For awhile I wasn’t seeing any of them. I hope they will continue now. I get so much peace from your posts. Thank you for sharing so much with us.

  22. teri at - Reply

    When husband’s are removed from life support in ICU, do they forgive us? My husband had a cardiac arrest and was revived but ICU said he wasent responding enough and I feel dident do enough for him. He did respond to me, but hospital dident believe me. They removed life support when I wasent with him in isu. I’m soooo angry. I feel he is too. We were married 25 years, he is the love of my life and we have kids and a granddaughter. I know he would have wanted to live, and finish coming out of coma. Is his spirit still near me and it he mad.??

  23. Jannette Mealyea at - Reply

    Do you do private readings?

  24. Elizabeth Bennett at - Reply

    For some strange reason I needed to see this article today, I have been struggling with the immense guilt, pain of my mom being angry with me & us not speaking to one another for days. The day she passes away she tried sparking a conversation, I ignored her over my hurt feelings & lost my only chance to clear things up for us. I am crushed by the weight of that loss on a daily basis.

  25. Line Elliott at - Reply

    My 80 y. old mother passed away 4 days after a fall resulting in a broken neck. Due to language barrier I needed to translate her wishes to be on life support or not. She changed her mind back and forth and suddenly things turned for the worse and she never got to tell me what she desperately was trying to because of the doctors interrupting and then it was too late! For over a week I kept dreaming of extreme physical and emotional pain she had to undergo. To a point that I didn’t want to go to sleep. I’ve talked to her in dreams and at one point told her that she had passed. This was one of the last times I saw her in a dream. There’s lot of signs around the house (she had been living with us for 22 years). I can see orbs (a few to over 20) mainly in my bedroom at night. I would love to know what she was trying to tell me and if she was ready to go?

  26. Blair I attended your show last fall in Dearborn. You said he was gone, yet he came thru the door and kept rubbing my cheeck. He didnt want me to drop his name. He is very private, like me. I will attend just to see your smiling face and Wendy’s because even magical unicorns believe in science. joking. We love you both!!!

  27. Tammy at - Reply

    Please pray for me

  28. Marieann at - Reply

    I am trying to deal with my guilt that I have hurt the only person that I truly loved in my adult life. Drinking didn’t help me and now I am sober I am learning to deal with it better from you.

    Thank you

  29. Maribel at - Reply

    I would love to know if loved ones on the other side listen to our prayers and whe I literally ask them to help me in a situation especially my father. Of course I always pray to God first.
    And how I get a reading Mr Blair? Thank you

  30. Tammy at - Reply

    Thank you Blair for being who you are,hope your getting better by the moment. Please say a special prayer for me the hardest time of my and light to you and wendy.

  31. Helen at - Reply

    Wish I could tell me about my father. Passed away 2000 think of him everyday hoping he is ok. His name was james

  32. Teresa Kemp at - Reply

    Do animals feel anger when they pass over. I had to put my loving Izzypop to sleep because of heart failure and tumors and as they were doing the procedure she jerked her leg as if trying to pull away. She was resisting what was happening to her. I have felt so much guilt over this for 5 months now. I can’t quit thinking about this. She hasn’t come to see me since this has happened I haven’t felt her presence or any signs from her. We were extremely close. Could she be mad at me? I am so filled with guilt…

  33. If they were murdered are they mad at their murderer? mad that their lives were cut shoot? want their muderer caught and punished?

  34. lauraa at - Reply

    I feel like their is someone or something weighing me down and that they have passed.

  35. Maria at - Reply

    Thank you for sharing your gift ❤️

  36. Nancy at - Reply

    Soon much would and need to connect from my granddaughter who passed away from cancer she was my heart.. She came into my life while I was grieving for my son. Would love to get a reading. I am going to the Nashville show. Thank you, reading tidbits on Facebook has helped me.

  37. Sherrie Johnston at - Reply

    Love this

  38. Doreen at - Reply

    I am so happy that you are taking care of yourself. I needed to learn that lesson the hard way with open heart surgery. After 1 yr since surgery, I am living my life to the best that I am able, giving daily thanks for “All my many BLESSINGS!” will look fwd to your emails and letters, till then my Spirit friend, Do TAKE CARE! A hui hou!

  39. Dear Blair.
    I’m so amazed at our angels & guides & how they protect & shield us from what could be “our time”! Accidents are good examples. We are protected in ways at the moment are unexplainable. I’m happy to hear you are on the road to recovery & will pray for full healing & wellness for you.
    Brenda Drake
    Seattle, Wa

  40. Jane at - Reply

    I don’t know if you can help me. Probably not. I’m 70 years old. Throughout my life, my sisters have bullied me. I left the home at 16. I had a great career and retired. My second oldest sister, begged for help. She had left her husband and needed a place to live. I moved to London to help her out. As soon as we moved in the bullying started again. after a year. I told her I couldn’t take her anymore (too long a story), she lied to every one in the family, told them I threw her out. all family turned against me. no one would talk to me. one night I believe she tried to kill me. (she was beneficiary to my Insurance), she moved out when I was in the hospital. long story, end result, my oldest sister committed suicide. I Hadn’t talked to anyone in 3 years, in a city where I knew no one. My question is, does my sister on the other side see… sorry only it’s important to know.

  41. Jack at - Reply

    I just lost my wife of 59 years about 4 months ago. Many people meaning well keep saying things will get better, she’s in a better place, she’s not ailing and that I should get on with my life. Blair, I just cannot do it. I only want to be up there with her but my religion for example will not permit me to do so on my own accord but I don’t think I can continue with this grieving 4 year after year. Still crying everyday. Living by myself at 78 years of age and it is so damn lonely. I feel as though I am in prison. I just cannot cope with it for any extended time. Thank you for your video. Would love the opportunity to sit down and chat with you.

  42. Joan Lohse at - Reply

    Blair, I am enjoying your material, and I have a question. By being a psychic, couldn’t you be able to see the car before it came through the window? Please explain this, as I understand that I don’t know all about this. Thank you.

  43. tebogo at - Reply

    mom died august 2017 and i never got a dream about her being happy with me she seem angry with me what do i do

  44. Tracy Rorraa at - Reply

    Thanks for coming to St. Catharines last night. My sister came through and you told me you were very struck by her dignity and how she held herself. Thank you very much. I miss her SO MUCH.

  45. Brian Robillard at - Reply

    Greetings from Ottawa Blair. I truly enjoyed your night of healing in Kanata. On Saturday morning I realized I could not find my sunglasses, I contacted Ben Franklin place and no one said that no sunglasses were found. I would not take their answer and I headed back to your venue, a security guard let me in to “The Chamber” lighters were on an I headed to where I sat. The sunglasses were there in the case. Blair please dont take this the wrong way, but are you sure all the spirits left? I felt very weak and had to sit down, then I felt my head fill with so many things, two hours later I woke up feeling rested and relaxed.
    On my way out a security guard asked how I got in the auditorium I told him that a woman security officer letter me in, he promptly told me he was the only one on duty today. Blair I swear the woman was in a security officer uniform and had keys open the door. Please explain.

  46. Cherie Santillo at - Reply

    Thank you Blair for this perspective! I’m always thinking of my son and a few of our conversations in the days before he left us. By the way, my husband and I really enjoyed seeing you in Reno when you were here in March. Looking forward to the next time!

    All the best to you,

  47. Barbara Bown at - Reply

    I am still here!

  48. kathleen hale at - Reply

    My cousin. a brother. friend died Friday morning. I had been mad and angry for a while. I understand stood he was suffering with copd and on top of that a drug addiction. I said some mean things out of anger before going to bed Thursday night. When I woke up Friday morning I found him dead. I am having a very hard time with this. I need help dealing with the lost of my best friend. I want him to forgive me for the anger I had that night

  49. Andrea at - Reply

    Thanks for reaching out to me, and thanks for all you do!

  50. Sally Roach at - Reply

    Your VIP list link is not working.

  51. Professor Bill at - Reply

    There is a hereafter

  52. Quel at - Reply

    Can i describe what happened over email

  53. Tj at - Reply

    When I was a teenager, my grandma died and I was too afraid to go to her funeral. That caused me to feel ashamed to even face my grandpa and it affected our relationship ever since. Right after his funeral, my mom gave me a rose which disappeared the very next day. I left it on the counter and the next morning it had vanished. Around that time I also had dreams of him and in the dreams he was furious at me. Just yesterday, I went to his grave and apologized for hurting him. I also thanked him for my childhood and asked him to relay the message he heard and forgave me to my husband, who seems to be able to speak to the dead. But that night, I came down with a very strange illness that only lasted five minutes: sudden stomach pains, nausea, sweating and feeling very hot. I think that was him telling me to f off. What do you think? I have been feeling guilty about this for years. This happened when I was 13 or 14. I’m 42 now and STILL bawl like a baby over it.

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