One of the biggest myths I run across in my travels is the belief that there is only one soul mate for us. This misconception causes a lot of unnecessary grief spiritually.
Losing a wife/husband/partner is most certainly a shock and tragic to say the least. And it certainly takes considerable time to begin to heal from the passing. And it pays to remember that each of us heal at different speeds.
That said, in my experience as a spiritual advisor, there comes a time when one reaches the point of acceptance and then the loneliness kicks in.
Often, right around this time comes along another feeling: guilt of moving on.
“I'll never find another like my late husband/wife,” or “my wife would never forgive me if I dated anyone,” are just two things I hear clients or attendees of my live events say.
The worst being, “He/she was my soul mate,” with the tone implying that all is now lost.
It's tragic to hear. But I have good news–even if it is hard to hear!
It is a complete and total myth that there will be only one soul mate in your life. Frankly speaking, each of us can literally have several soul mates in life.
The Book Of Life
See, our lives are like books. A good book has multiple chapters, as do our lives. To paraphrase the late great Jim Rohn, there's a reason why they make those fourth grade chairs so small!
“There's a reason why they make those fourth grade chairs so small…”
Grief is a process, but we are never expected to live life alone. And just as we once could fit in those fourth grade chairs, we grow and move through new chapters in our lives to the point we can't fit in those chairs again.
A Message From Spirit
When I give demonstrations of spirit communication at live events, I often have loved ones come through to widows/widowers. And you know what the common theme is? It's the encouragement to move on.
There is no jealousy from loved ones in spirit. They value and love the time that they spent with us on this earthly plane, and for whatever reason they needed to make the transition to spirit. While they needed to leave us physically, they never intended for us to be left lonely.
Ask yourself this: if the roles were reversed and you were in heaven, would you want your loved one to be lonely forever?
Of course you wouldn't.
A Life Lost…
Recently I was giving a reading to a widow of a soldier killed in the Gulf War. She was 21 years old when he passed and told me that she routinely cried herself to sleep at night out of loneliness.
The Gulf War ended in 1991. By holding on to the mistaken belief that her husband was the only soulmate she'd ever have, she's been miserable for… two decades!
Two decades… I thought to myself, two lives have been lost out of this tragedy.
The story is long and sad, but she confessed that many have approached her to date, but she denies any requests.
I asked her, “if you were hit by a car and your husband came back from the war a widower, would you have wanted him to go through the next 60 years alone? Or would you want him to find another soul mate?”
“Of course!” she exclaimed and then paused like a deer in headlights… as it dawned on her that was what he wanted for her!
You Will Never ‘Replace' Your Soul Mate But You Can Find A New One
Listen. You'll never replace your soul mate if they pass. That's not the point. If they were a true soul mate then the passing will be very difficult and painful. That's because of the love you shared.
But you can–and it's strongly encouraged that you should–find another soul mate with whom you can share lessons with.
If someone you love is struggling with moving on, please share this article with them. I welcome your comments below, especially if you have encouraging stories to share.
Please also make sure you recognize the five signs your deceased loved one sends you.