Dreams Of Deceased Loved Ones: 3 Steps To Connect

Dreams Of Deceased Loved Ones: 3 Steps To Connect

Dreams of Deceased Loved Ones: How To Connect

Almost everyone has had dreams of deceased loved ones visiting us.

We wake up feeling that they were really and truly there.

Then, doubt creeps in. Maybe we were just imagining it?

Until recently, I used to tell people, “YES, our loved ones do indeed visit us in our dreams.”

However, in the process of writing my upcoming book, my awesome editor Allison made me realize–by pushing me to the edge–that I was wrong.

No, our loved ones do NOT visit us in our dreams.

Instead, they make connections with us while we are asleep.

What is the difference between a dream and a connection?

Dreams are typically weird. They make no sense.

You are riding a big giant yellow “rubber duckie” down a street going to work… you wake up and wonder, “what the heck was that about?”

In dreams, you will meet and talk with people, but cannot remember anything about them. They are typically faceless or shadows. (Note: not “scary” faceless people, but people whom you simply can't recall).

Connections with the deceased are extremely clear and memorable. You will clearly see the person who is on the other side. In other words, if your grandmother is making a connection with you, you will see and know it is her. No if's, and's or but's about it.

Here's Another Fascinating Characteristic Of A Deceased Loved One Making A Connection

When you wake up, it will feel as though if you only opened your eyes a second earlier you would have seen them right there.

There will be a certain warmth or characteristic of them having “just” been there.

Of course, your logical mind will tell you that they have passed on so there's no way they could have physically been there, but nevertheless the feeling will be there!

Three Steps To Connecting With Your Deceased Loved Ones While You Sleep

Your deceased loved ones desperately want to communicate with you. Understand that to begin with. Now, they might not communicate with you on a daily basis, they are there, they are around you and they can, do and will connect with your when you are asleep.

With that in mind, follow these three simple steps to connect with your loved ones.

First, it's important to relax. Trying to connect with your deceased loved ones when you are stressed and preoccupied can be a challenge. So, if you have had a stressful and anxiety filled day at work, this will decrease your chances of making a connection.

My advice is to meditate or relax. Take a warm bath. Go for a long walk. Wind down.

I do not recommend alcohol or drugs to “relax.” This affects your mind and body in an adverse way and will likely block a connection.

Second, I recommend that you write their name. In today's digital age this can be either on paper or typing it on a computer. Makes no difference. It's the ceremony of it that counts. You can also light a candle and or use incense.

Finally–and this is the easiest part–get into bed and make yourself comfortable. Ask you guides “please help me communicate with (name) tonight while I am asleep.” Then go to sleep. Silently say their name over and over again (example: “uncle Bob, uncle Bob, etc.)

Watch Your Expectations!

Your deceased loved ones in heaven have lives too! They don't jump just because you call upon them! Make sure that you open yourself to making connections upon their wanting to make a connection with you. NOT the other way around.

My Dad died March 23rd, 1995. He has only come to me four times since his passing.

That's right. Even I–Blair Robertson the medium–have only connected with my father on a few occasions.

That might sound depressing. I get that. But nothing could be further from the truth!  Every time he's connected with me the connection has been nothing but profound.

My expectation is this: I'm here when my Dad wants to connect. I ask regularly for him to connect, but I'm happy if he does not. In other words, I'm “open” to him at any time.


You might not make a connection immediately, but look at it this way: you have nothing to lose! You must sleep anyway, so why not ask for connections every night?

It's easy, and best of all… it's FREE!

Speaking of FREE: Make sure you sign up for my FREE email newsletter to get info on my upcoming webinars… we are planning one very soon, so get on the list now! 🙂

And when you DO make a connection, post your success in the comments below!

And don't forget to check out the five different signs they demonstrate

By |2017-01-30T12:40:59+00:00December 6th, 2013|Life After Death|21 Comments

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  1. Nancy Culver December 6, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Sounds very interesting….I hope I can do this….Ty

  2. moniquepeace28@yahoo.com December 6, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    I have dreams about my dad all the time,most recent was him n I on a boat it was very real,very clear and when he hugged me I actually felt the love,he didn’t talk much was looking at me saying some stuff and he was mostly driving the boat,is there a reason he comes to me,does he know it because I miss him

  3. Diane December 6, 2013 at 6:37 pm

    My Aunt died on Dec 6 2005…..The night she passed when I went home from the nursing home I smelled her perfume in my bedroom…(.she didn’t have any on that day) Nobody else could smell it but me….I went to bed and could feel the covers moving like someone was tucking me in…it was so real …I know it was her…..I am hoping she comes to me tonight in my dreams where today is the anniversary of her death!

  4. Sophie December 6, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    I will definitely try it in the upcoming days. I’m having difficulties celebrating Christmas this year. Every time I see the Santa Claus that was bought with money inside my grandfather’s wallet after he died and the snowman my grandmother gave to me her last Christmas with us, I start crying. I miss them so much and am always wondering if they found one another in heaven. I have so many questions that I’d like to ask them. So, I’ll try to connect with both of them during the next few days/weeks, and I’ll let you know if it works!!

  5. diana December 6, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    This works I had it happen to me when I fElt quilty that I jinxed a friends death. I was one of the lucky ones to be able to say good bye before I knew what was coming. After a year of feeling lousy he came to me in my dream as clear as day and kept repeating to me “diana, I’m ok” I will never forget that. Thank you Blair for all that you do

  6. Wendy December 6, 2013 at 8:30 pm

    I did connect one night with my Grandparents, both were together in the dream and they were moving back into their house. It was amazing.

  7. chrissy December 6, 2013 at 8:35 pm

    Hey Blair I am confused. Are you saying our loved one DO NOT VISIT us in our dreams, only if we ask for the connection. They do not come to bring us messages at any time for any reason?

  8. bETTY December 6, 2013 at 9:01 pm

    Well I have lost my Mom, Dad and both sisters. I was the middle child. Linda the oldest was the my go to person when trouble came my way. I was Jan’s go to person when trouble came her way. I ended up taking care of Jan at the nursing home the last 8 years of her life.She i died at age 55. I often spoke to Jan about finding pennies when one of us left this earth. I used to find pennies in the weirdest places, until I found 1951 penny laying half way under the front tire of my car, (Jan was born in 1951) I thought i saw something and surely it was a penny. I don;t hear from Jan anymore but when I cry in my bedroom I feel that Linda my older sister that died before Jan is there. I can just hear her voice. I don;t know if I am just wishing or is she really coming to me I have no one else to talk too. I hope its her.

  9. Carrie December 6, 2013 at 9:36 pm

    What you call “connections” while you sleep, I have always called “visits” from my loved ones in my dreams. As you were saying, “the difference is how vivid they are and how pleasant the visit is. When you awake, you can remember every important detail…it’s wonderful. I have had several “visits” from my mother, father, grandmother and brothers. We always hug and it is very comforting to me.

  10. Robyn Suz December 6, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    Webinars please.
    Thank you

  11. Susan Douglas December 6, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    Thankyou for valadating …. I had only 1 dream if my mom since her passing .. She was moaning ,crying & circling around in a lg. whirl pool. Mom has always been afraid of water. She could not swim.. It has troubled me every time it think about it.

  12. Lenna Weinstein December 6, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    My brother died 2/4/2013 we are a year apart. On super bowl Sunday he had a major stroke on our back porch. I did everything Fast called 911 did everything they told me to do. I believed he would be fine. But when we got to the hospital we we’re told he had a brain bleed at his brain stem. No coming back from that. I feel so lost without my brother he is and always will be my big brother! He was only 51 he had high blood pressure and he didn’t take care of it. So it cost him dearly he leaves his wife his children ages and us. Good I miss my brother I would love to talk to him again! I talk to him everyday but never hear from him.

  13. Donna December 6, 2013 at 10:16 pm

    My mother passed 8 yrs ago on nov 28th. she comes to me a lot…I don’t always see here but I feel her. I get a warm happy feeling and know that she is around. usually wnen I need the comfort for some reason. my cat has a tendency to look up in the corner of the room and he will paw at the walls and “chirp” away. usually that is where I see her….so I know then that she is around.

  14. Bonny Chrystal December 6, 2013 at 10:36 pm

    My Dad died 9/9/2006. In November, I was sitting alone while my patient was busy with his teacher in the next room. While I was waiting quietly for my patient’s class time to end, I was thinking of my Dad. Silently, I asked my Dad for a sign that he had crossed into heaven and was happy and ok. I thought of what he could send and asked for a blue feather. I said “OK, Dad when I get a blue feather, I know you’re OK” Within a minute I heard the teacher say “It’s almost Thanksgiving so we should make a turkey. Let me get my FEATHERS.” I was amazed and walked into the room to watch. I did not tell them why but I simply asked “May I watch?” The teacher reached into a bag of colored feathers and pulled out the blue feather! The teacher was happy to hand it to me when I explained why I need that blue feather. It’s taped to the back of Dad’s picture in my wallet. 🙂

  15. Sue Meyer December 6, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    I stayed with my mom in hospital for 2 1/2 months before she passed away March 19, 2013. When I got home, she stayed with me for the first week or so. I felt her with me and dreamt about her all night long. I felt so comforted!
    It is only now, months later, that I am struggling so much with her loss.
    My mom is now with my 2 brothers and I am left all alone.
    Thank you for bringing comfort to all of us who miss our loved ones.

  16. Manon December 7, 2013 at 6:47 am

    My grand-maman paased 20 yrs ago, always felt her around my boy which is only 11 yrs now, but i never got to really say goodby and last year in Florida i go a beautiful encounter with her, woke up in tears because I got to say I love you, goodbye and she told me my boy was special… It still feels like it was yesterday to me… To prove further that they are around us, when my son was 4 he ask me who was the lady in the picture and I told him it grand-maman on my dad side, and he said she’s funny… Smiled and went on his play with his imaginary friend…..

  17. David's Widow December 7, 2013 at 6:55 am

    My beloved husband passed away on Sept. 11, 1999, 2 yrs before that “other” 9/11 tragedy. He and my oldest son (from another marriage) were extremely close, and I’m thrilled he connects with my son in dreams very frequently. He connects with me every few yrs, the most recent just 2 wks ago. Yes, it’s such a WONDERFUL, WARM sensation when waking up! I figure he knows my son needs to connect with him even more than I do, and I’m thrilled he does.

    A bit off-topic, but maybe not — quite often I wake up from a deep sleep thinking I’ve heard someone knocking on my front door in the middle of the night. Any way that’s a spirit waking me?

  18. Char James December 7, 2013 at 9:08 am

    Can you communicate with a relative whom you never met? My maternal grandmother passed away in 1925; I wasn’t born until 1946. Even though I never knew her, I have many photos and mementos of hers.

    My sister passed away in 1997. One morning, when I was in danger of oversleeping, I distinctly heard my sister’s voice insistently calling my name, as if to rouse me. Believe me…it did; I was awake immediately!

    That same year, my parents went into assisted living…my Dad into nursing care and my Mom into a single private room. Her room # was my Dad’s birthday: 324 (March 24). A guest cafeteria there was named the Evergreen Room…my late brother lived in Evergreen, CO.
    My other brother (who had lived with my parents) bought his own home when they moved. His new address (3102 Prince Street) is a combination of my sister’s birth month (2-February) and her husband’s birth year (1931)…and their last name (Prince)! My brother-in-law’s birth year (31) is also my birth day.

    Ever since, I have been open to synchronicities such as these.

  19. cindy w December 7, 2013 at 9:46 am

    1993 sept 2, lost mom and Dec 10 lost dad. Both were young and it was devastating to my brother and I although we were I our 30’s we never recovered fully from the shock of losing both so quickly and so close together. In Jan of 1994 I had this vivid dream of my dad who was sitting talking with me and visiting. He was not a demonstrative man but we knew he loved his family. He kept hugging me and kissing me in this dream and said how much he loved me. It was a pleasant dream and very very clear. I told no one. A few months later my brother and I were chatting and he tells me about this dream he had in January…almost word for word what happened in my dream. We feel it was a visit for sure. Dads way of ensuring we knew..he died very suddenly in his sleep so we did not get a chance to say goodbye.

  20. Diane December 7, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    I just love dreaming of my loved ones as I wake with a warm feeling that stays with me. It’s really hard to describe. Sometimes when I am sitting quietly I can smell smoke like cigarette smoke. Both my parents smoked and I hated it. When I was younger I would always hide their ash-trays especially Dad’s, so when I smell the cigarette smell I sense he is around me. I also experience that feeling of warmth that occurs from dreaming when my loved ones appear.

  21. Tee December 7, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    I have not received any of your Monday predictions (or monthly predictions) for a couple of months. Do you still publish them? I really looked forward to them when you used to send out the weekly four predictions. Have you stopped doing this? You are so accurate.

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